I have heard this phrase a lot: "Blogs aren't real. People only post their triumphs."
It's true that I post a lot of positive things. And yes, there are a lot of things that I leave out. But that doesn't make what I post any less real. I have plenty of things I could post about and choose not to. I could post about what a horrible mother I feel like I am most of the time. I could post about how much I hate how much my husband travels and is gone. I could post about how I worry that something will happen to him and I will be left raising four kids on my own, or that he will lose his job and we will not be able to make ends meet. I could post about how lonely I feel most of the time. I could post about how I have been hurt deeply by people close to me. I could post about how I feel like I don't have any close friends that I can count on. I could post about how I feel jealous of people with long-standing best friends that they can call no matter what. I could post about how I can never quite seem to say the right thing to people. Or I could post about how I have never gotten over my inferiority complex that I developed being constantly made fun of from 2nd-8th grade. I could post about how much I miss my family and how lonely I feel every holiday spent away from them, or just when things get really hard, and I feel the most depressed.
But I don't.
I don't because overall, I am a positive person. Or at least I try to be. I try to be someone that people want to be around. Someone who uplifts and inspires. I post about things that make me happy, and things that I want to remember.
I don't post triumphs. I post what is true to me.
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
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Well said. I love to see all the different routes people choose to take on their blogs. Sometimes it's easy to think that someone else has it way easier or better than ourselves when reading a blog, but the reality is never that simple. We all have our victories and our struggles. I appreciate your humor and happiness on your blog, Amy! And I promise to keep reading if you decide to get all gloomy on us too. ;-)
Amy, other than having 4 kids, I could just copy and paste every single word of that into my own blog. I think we are both positive people and want to put our best foot forward, so that is what we present to people when we have the ability to take the time to CHOOSE what we say before it comes spilling out of our mouths.
Plus, blogs can be dangerous. Many times I have read things people have written that have hurt my feelings. Usually this is when people decide to divulge too much in their blog, and they fail to see how their complaint about life turns into complaints about people in their lives, which then become public. So I am a big fan of just posting the positive unless you need to make an announcement or have to get something off your chest!!
And remember, even though I am far away, I have always and will always consider you one of my very best friends! I am very lucky to still have you in my life, and you can always count on me to love you. I may not be close enough to fill some of those gaps, but my support is always there for you!!!
Kemyemyams forever!!!!
I've always thought you've been your true, authentic self on your blog. It's YOUR blog and I say post whatever it is that you want to put on it.
As for some of your worries, I can honestly say that as women, I think we all struggle with those from time to time and can definitely relate to what you are saying. I've really enjoyed getting to know you better this year, Amy. You are such a great wife, mother, and friend. You are kind, funny, helpful,talented and sensitive. I wish we had taken the time to get to know each other better when we were in the same ward and our paths crossed a lot more often. I think you are terrific and glad we are friends! Have a Merry Christmas!
Having the guts to be who you are, the good and the bad, can be hard but you do it so well! You are a wonderful person, so eager to help with anything at any time and I've loved working with you this year at school. I know I can count on you at any time and that's a quality I admire so much. Thanks for being such a wonderful person, for running your house when your husband is gone SO MUCH, and for doing it all with a smile on your face. You rock girl.
Merry Christmas!
Love it...I think you and I have more in common than we realized...except for the 4 kids part. I don't want to post the bad because what's the fun in reading that? What's the point in me writing that? I love that you 'blogged' this. You're awesome Amy.
Hope you have a blessed and very Merry Christmas! ♥ HUGS ♥
everyone makes choices...lots everyday.
i agree, many things each day arent' always fun or happy but sometimes when i can write about it and put a happier or funnier spin (which may make things sound better than they really are) i do.
you are absolutely right, its your story, you get to write it any way YOU want!
Thanks for sharing!! It's nice to know I'm not the only one going through the same things =)
-Tess
I love this post so much Amy! I love it because it rings so true with me. I've had people make little comments here and there about blogging and how all I show is sunshine and roses. Is my life sunshine and roses? Absolutely not. But do I CHOOSE to shine the light on the good parts of my life instead of dwelling on the parts that are insanely difficult? YES!!
We all have hard things that we are going through, that's why I love your post so much. As women, we deal with so much...all the time...good and bad. I love that you choose to celebrate the good in your life. You are a wonderful friend, and I am truly grateful to call you friend!
I agree- people who don't think blogs are real are reading the wrong blogs- or not actually reading any blogs at all!
Great Blog! I love to read your blogs I think it just shows what a generous and gifted woman you are. I think in life you have to keep track of and remember the great things you are doing right and enjoying and how you are progressing to keep you from getting sidetracked and stuck in a rut with the everyday struggles. You are amazing! I like blogs because in the comments I can express my admiration and share a small piece of someones life as my life and distance keeps me from spending the time I want to and ought to with such fun and amazing people in my life, like you. Hope you had a great Christmas. We miss you.
I think it's easy to read someone else's blog where one is in a poopy mood and project one's own feelings of insecurity and envy onto another person's blog when they're are describing just a short moment in that person's life. Blogs are just a look at a few footprints on a person's life path, and can never tell the whole story, and seriously, who would want to write all that?? Especially moms. Um, I did the laundry today. I washed the dishes. I washed the dishes. Oh, finally got a shower. That's what facebook is for I suppose. I guess. LOL
Hey now, what am I? chopped liver? I'm your friend you can call whenever! I just may not always answer my phone if I forgot to turn it on...or I'm in another room...hmmm...maybe I need to work on that. Ha!
Wow Amy! I have had the same thoughts and feelings so many days. I have those worries alot. We just do our best, and there is nothing wrong with being positive, it does not make you or your blog less real! So keep those post coming!
Wow Amy! I have had the same thoughts and feelings so many days. I have those worries alot. We just do our best, and there is nothing wrong with being positive, it does not make you or your blog less real! So keep those post coming!
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