Feeling a little fired up. Today I took Addison to an appointment. The nurse was looking at my file and says "Addison is your... one, two, three... fourth child." Yes, he is. "Are you done?" My response when people ask me that is always the same: "I'm done for now." It makes me sad to think that I will never have another baby. But right now, I'm happy. I have my two girls and my two boys. I fit in my house. I can't afford anymore. right now. But I'm also only 28. I do have a few more acceptable child bearing years. Jeremy and I always said we would have 5. So I have a good 7 years to decide if I want another one. I don't know if I will. But it comforts me to know that I could. So back to today, after I give my usual response, she says "FOR NOW?!? You're going to have MORE?!? You have 4!" I politely respond, that yes I do, but that I still have time to decide if I want to have another one, but I'm good for now. She won't let it go, "but THAT'S a LOT!!" Of course I was polite, but inside I'm just thinking, really?! Who are YOU to decide what I can and can't do? There is no medical reason I can't have another one, and it's not like she will be taking care of my baby. Why do some people feel like they have to single-handedly make sure that the earth is not being over populated by me? My husband and I are married, we love each other, and we love our children. Would it be so bad to add one more to that?
Back when I only had 3, I was in a craft store, and the checker lady asks me, "Are those ALL yours??" Yes, all 3 of them. She then proceeds to say: "You're done, RIGHT?!?" No, lady, I'm not, actually I was planning on having 2 more.
Has anyone else had any experience with this?? It is so frustrating that people can't help themselves but say things. When I see someone that does something I don't agree with, I don't stop them and make sure they're planning on stopping. Honestly people. Keep it to yourself!!!
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
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People can be so rude! I was at the zoo yesterday with Ellie and an older lady sat down near me. She saw Ellie playing with another younger girl and assumed that they were both mine. She than informed me "You look way too young to have children!" I so badly wanted to say "wow, I was thinking you look way too old to have children!" but I didn't. I think we need to stop being so dang polite all the time and learn to just say "That's my business, not yours."
Believe it or not, it's not very popular to have more than 1 child over here in the east coast, and to wait to get married, let alone think about having a child until your 30's. Now that I am only 26, and have 2 children, I always get, those are both yours and you look too young to even be married let alone have 2 children. I have to smile and say to myself, I chose this path that I am on, and I am happy, married, and in love, and what better environment these kids to get be raised in with the gospel. I'm glad that I'm not in my 30's thinking about having even my 1st. I want to be a young vibrant grandma someday, and to be able to be young enough to play with my children on the ground and roll around like they do. Amy, we don't have to explain ourself, but isn't interesting how the signs of the times are coming about? How we were told that only the very righteous would continue to have children? Or something like that! I'm just glad that I know the kind of person you are, and that these children of yours are being raised by a wonderful, talented, happy, loving person who will help them learn and grown and become their best in life. At least we are trying to keep a higher law given by our Heavenly Father that we covenanted with him in the temple. That means more than anything else that people think. We are just being obeident to God's laws. :)
Once again, people prove how incredibly stupid they are.
It amazes me how bold some people can be!! I have had several comments and looks (that may say more sometimes) from strangers that haven't been the kindest. It is refreshing when you do get a positive/sympathetic comment!!!
I get it quite often (and I only have three)! You wouldn't believe how many people told me they couldn't believe we weren't finished after Brynnlee. After all, we had a boy and now we were getting a girl- so what else did we need?
Yes, I've experienced those very same questions. SO frustrating! You are wonderful parents, I say if you want to have 45 kids, it's nobody's business but your's! You take care of them, you love them, you teach them. You go mom!
And if you are 30 and have chosen not to have kids right now, that's ok. Sometimes people need to remember that too.
I had to sigh inside last week as the hundredth person said "He's so huge" and (often in cute asian accents) "how you so skinny!" I finally have said heck with the explanations and just say thank you, which leaves them baffled. I kinda laugh at their faces. hhaa.. Then there's the people who ask us, so will you have any more? Hmmm, WE only have ONE and they're asking!! WHOA! Signs of the TIMES! And then my ultimate favorite, right after the 12 hour drive getting Lukas home from San Diego, a lady asks me, so will you adopt again? Don't get me wrong, it's been great, but it's not exactly like going to the store and picking out a pumpkin (although what a CUTE little pumpkin Lukas turned out to be!) Just wow them Amy and say, oh yes, our goal is 11 kids, enough for a soccer team, and start recording their facial expressions with a hidden camera. LOL It's more fun for you anyways! LOL
Saying there are 11 kids in your family always gets a reaction, too. :-) My math teacher wasn't very kind about the subject- he felt that a person should never have more than two kids, so they can take the spots of the parents on the the Earth (when they eventually die). Yet he taught all my family members and loved them all- so I would ask him who he would get rid of, and it stumped him. Really, though, as long as your good parents, I don't think it matters. Another one of my teachers told me he felt that some couples shouldn't have kids because they don't treat their children well, yet my parents could add a couple more on to their 11 and those kids would do just fine. All that matters is the lovin' your providin'. :-)
I'm glad we have our car full. Still one spot left in the van, then we upgrade to the Expedition, Burban or the ultimate family transport, that's right Jensens, the 15 passenger VAN! Of course the house would have to be upgraded at a similar pace so lets just keep it status quo for now. Love ya.
Oh yeah! My favorite is when they ask, "You know what causes that, right?" Then I get to reply, "Yeah! You should try it! It's great!" Hang in there sweety! Life is good. Kids are great. They just don't know what they're missing! :)
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